6 Steps for Taking Responsibility for Triggers and Healing (your own and/or your partner's)

One of my deepest wounds and greatest triggers of unworthiness happened this week. 

My birthday.

It's become a well-worn path bordered by landmines and avoidance.

Shaun's taken to be my guide on occasion, and this year was especially sweet.

4 Steps to Connect Desire with Arousal (or the vice versa)

Sometimes I catch myself looking at Shaun and wanting to rub myself all over him.

I'm not always clear in that moment which part of me is responding....

Because it could be my heart.

Swelling with the love, compassion, joy, emotion I feel with him and toward him.

This Is Why I Worry About Being Normal (and its effects on my relationship....)

Am I...normal?

This is a question I've asked myself many times around many different things.

If I dig deeper and ask myself what's underneath this question, it's about being belonging.

It's about being worthy.

3 Steps for Finding Peace in Your Relationship During Triggering Times

I've been waking up angry.

Throughout my days I'll find moments of connection and even moments of peace.

And then BOOM!

Another wave of rage will wash over me.

Anniversaries and Next-Level Adventures

Three weeks ago Shaun and I celebrated the one-year anniversary of the Epic Couples Podcast.

On the show we explored the last 45 episodes (along with a few that didn't get publicly shared) and talked about our favorite moments and the ones that made us cringe. (You can listen to it here or on Apple or Android podcast apps.)

5 Things #MeToo Needs You To Heal In Your Relationship

When I shared with my partner that the foundation of my sex life has been guilt and pressure and performing pleasure for the benefit of lovers I've been with...

It didn't go well.

My partner and I were frozen around what to do after this revelation.

What did it mean about our relationship?

5 Things You Can Do To Reclaim Your Relationship

I invite you to turn and look at your partner. 

Maybe you just need to look up, and there they are across from you.

If you can't see your partner from your vantage point and you're in the same space, carry this email with you and go find them. 

If your partner and you are in different locations, I invite you to scroll to a picture of them.

This Is Why You Need a Scrum Master For Your Relationship

Ever wish you had someone who could guide you with what to say and do to make your partner feel amazing? 

Ever wish you could tell your partner or impart some magical wisdom to them about how to love you best and make you feel good?

Ever wish you knew how to prioritize your relationship amongst all your other commitments and responsibilities so you can experience deep intimacy and connection with your partner more often?

This Is Why Giving Everything To Your Work and Kids Means Your Relationship Is Non-Existent

Last week I was sitting in a session with my psychologist when he said, 

"You should commit suicide if you don't feel worthy."

My jaw didn't drop open (uh, I was too busy being polite), but the shock did hit me so that I blinked several times wondering if those words had actually come out of his mouth.