This Is Why You Have to Co-Create The Boundaries of Your Relationship

I feel some shame around admitting it...


My partner Shaun and I went through many years where we locked ourselves into domestic roles and stereotypes that weren't really and truly us.

We took on "husband" and "wife."

6 Steps for Taking Responsibility for Triggers and Healing (your own and/or your partner's)

One of my deepest wounds and greatest triggers of unworthiness happened this week. 

My birthday.

It's become a well-worn path bordered by landmines and avoidance.

Shaun's taken to be my guide on occasion, and this year was especially sweet.

This Is Why I Worry About Being Normal (and its effects on my relationship....)

Am I...normal?

This is a question I've asked myself many times around many different things.

If I dig deeper and ask myself what's underneath this question, it's about being belonging.

It's about being worthy.

3 Steps for Finding Peace in Your Relationship During Triggering Times

I've been waking up angry.

Throughout my days I'll find moments of connection and even moments of peace.

And then BOOM!

Another wave of rage will wash over me.

Anniversaries and Next-Level Adventures

Three weeks ago Shaun and I celebrated the one-year anniversary of the Epic Couples Podcast.

On the show we explored the last 45 episodes (along with a few that didn't get publicly shared) and talked about our favorite moments and the ones that made us cringe. (You can listen to it here or on Apple or Android podcast apps.)

5 Things #MeToo Needs You To Heal In Your Relationship

When I shared with my partner that the foundation of my sex life has been guilt and pressure and performing pleasure for the benefit of lovers I've been with...

It didn't go well.

My partner and I were frozen around what to do after this revelation.

What did it mean about our relationship?