P is for Polyfidelity

What word or words embody your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore the term polyfidelity to describe their ideal relationship structure. They discuss Daniela’s girlfriend and the literal definition of ménage à trois. 

Taking Responsibility for Your Relationship

Do you show up to do the emotional work to meet the needs of your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore what it takes to do the work individually and together as they co-create their dynamic relationship. They discuss the magnetism and weight of authentically sharing their non-dominant relationship style and structure with others.

Co-Creating A Dynamic Relationship

Does the container of your relationship meet your needs and heal your wounds?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) discuss the co-creation of their dynamic relationship structure. They explore definitions, expressions and situations that impact their sex, love, and relationship.

Slow Foreplay and Sharing Sexual Energy

Does your sexual energy need to be shared?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) share the slow, delicious foreplay of dressing and undressing one another and watching one another strut. They explore sexting etiquette, dick pics, and consensual interactions.

Attraction Outside of Your Relationship

Is it okay to experience attraction outside of your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) talk about what happens when they experience desire and arousal when looking at other people outside of their relationship. They discuss how social conditioning and religion impact judgment and shame when it comes to being attracted to someone other than your partner.

Healing and Triggers

Do you know what triggers—and heals—your partner?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) share what they each need from birthday celebrations while exploring both the burden and privilege of knowing and understanding each other’s triggers.

Play With Desire and Arousal As Separate Experiences

Do you experience desire and arousal as the same thing?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) discuss the differences between desire—like wanting your partner—and arousal—when your genitals are engorged and how to unwire the myth that these two responses go together.

Your Relationship is Normal

How do you know your relationship is normal?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) talk about their experiences getting together with other couples. When very little is shared with any authenticity, they talk about getting stuck in comparison instead of considering what it is they truly desire inside their relationship.

Shadows of a Third

What elements overshadow your ability to be present to your relationship?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) talk about recent blocks they’ve experienced to intimacy, connection, and sex. When family time, trauma, and work overshadow time and energy for their relationship, Daniela and Shaun go easy on themselves.

Who Are We? How We Identify and Sexual Expressions

How does how you identify affect your sex, love, and relationships?

In this premiere episode of The Epic Couple's Journey, Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (pronouns he/his/him) share various aspects of their identity to center how they approach their relationship as well as how they experience sex, love, safety, and belonging.

What Matters Most?

What matters most to you?

Daniela and Shaun discuss what matters most in life in light of recent deaths in their family. While meeting with their life insurance agent, issues of worthiness and value come up and impact their relationship and the life they’ve created.

8 Keys To Better Sex

What would it take for you to experience better sex with your partner?

Daniela and Shaun explore eight keys to better sex while sharing which keys have impacted their sex life the most. While talking about worthiness, mindset, and intentions, they discuss how far they’ve come throughout their relationship.

How Did You Two Meet?

How do you feel while you tell someone about how you and your partner met? 

Daniela and Shaun each share how they met as they explore how and why counselors and therapists use the question “How did you two meet?” as an indicator of the strength of the relationship. 

When Your Partner’s Emotions Trigger You

How do you feel when your partner shares deep emotions with you?

Daniela and Shaun share the hard transition from expressing emotions and holding space to reconnection in their relationship. Once you learn how to avoid fixing your partner, telling them they're wrong, or talking about yourself, progressing out of holding space can be difficult...especially if one or both of you is or has been triggered.

Shifting From #MeToo to #EnthusiasticYes In Your Relationship

How has the #MeToo Movement affected your relationship?

Daniela and Shaun talk about sex, shame, and power and how #MeToo affects long term relationships. While developing a spectrum ranging from Harvey Weinstein to Aziz Anzari, listen as they discuss needing to evolve past the idea of consent around sex.

To Plan or Not To Plan

Does planning your time together make you feel calm or caged in?

Daniela and Shaun explore their upcoming kid-free vacation and how to prepare (or not) and connect (or not) over plans for how to spend their time. From setting intentions and expectations to letting things be and flow as they are, listen as they share their thoughts and feelings around having the trip be a certain way.

Permission to Feel Your Emotions

How safe is it for you to feel your emotions around your partner?

Daniela and Shaun discuss connection and how vulnerable sharing is key whether you’re at your high school reunion, buying groceries, or with your partner. From everyday experiences of a variety of emotions to the biggest blow-ups resulting in hyperarousal and hypoarousal, listen as they share their experiences and how to avoid a stalemate.