connection

Your Relationship is Normal

How do you know your relationship is normal?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) talk about their experiences getting together with other couples. When very little is shared with any authenticity, they talk about getting stuck in comparison instead of considering what it is they truly desire inside their relationship.

To Plan or Not To Plan

Does planning your time together make you feel calm or caged in?

Daniela and Shaun explore their upcoming kid-free vacation and how to prepare (or not) and connect (or not) over plans for how to spend their time. From setting intentions and expectations to letting things be and flow as they are, listen as they share their thoughts and feelings around having the trip be a certain way.

Permission to Feel Your Emotions

How safe is it for you to feel your emotions around your partner?

Daniela and Shaun discuss connection and how vulnerable sharing is key whether you’re at your high school reunion, buying groceries, or with your partner. From everyday experiences of a variety of emotions to the biggest blow-ups resulting in hyperarousal and hypoarousal, listen as they share their experiences and how to avoid a stalemate.

Fear Times Four

Daniela and Shaun explore why they can’t seem to get it together despite having tools, practices, and resources that can bring them from where they are to where they want to be. They talk about fear—fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of loss, and fear of change. Listen as they discuss how fear affects the dynamic of a relationship and prevents connection and growth.

Sex Practices and Relaxation

Daniela and Shaun talk about how difficult it is to set down priorities and responsibilities to relax. They share how their weekly sex practice offers an opportunity to feel safe and to tune in to connect to one another. Listen as they discuss Shaun’s perception of happiness as a weakness and Daniela’s inability to relax.