holding space

P is for Polyfidelity

What word or words embody your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore the term polyfidelity to describe their ideal relationship structure. They discuss Daniela’s girlfriend and the literal definition of ménage à trois. 

Shadows of a Third

What elements overshadow your ability to be present to your relationship?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) talk about recent blocks they’ve experienced to intimacy, connection, and sex. When family time, trauma, and work overshadow time and energy for their relationship, Daniela and Shaun go easy on themselves.

What Matters Most?

What matters most to you?

Daniela and Shaun discuss what matters most in life in light of recent deaths in their family. While meeting with their life insurance agent, issues of worthiness and value come up and impact their relationship and the life they’ve created.

When Your Partner’s Emotions Trigger You

How do you feel when your partner shares deep emotions with you?

Daniela and Shaun share the hard transition from expressing emotions and holding space to reconnection in their relationship. Once you learn how to avoid fixing your partner, telling them they're wrong, or talking about yourself, progressing out of holding space can be difficult...especially if one or both of you is or has been triggered.

Permission to Feel Your Emotions

How safe is it for you to feel your emotions around your partner?

Daniela and Shaun discuss connection and how vulnerable sharing is key whether you’re at your high school reunion, buying groceries, or with your partner. From everyday experiences of a variety of emotions to the biggest blow-ups resulting in hyperarousal and hypoarousal, listen as they share their experiences and how to avoid a stalemate.

Fear Times Four

Daniela and Shaun explore why they can’t seem to get it together despite having tools, practices, and resources that can bring them from where they are to where they want to be. They talk about fear—fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of loss, and fear of change. Listen as they discuss how fear affects the dynamic of a relationship and prevents connection and growth.

Scrum Masters and Roadblocks in Relationships


Shaun shares his past experiences as a scum master, and together Daniela and he discuss the applications for relationships. They talk about the importance of defining your priority list and getting real about where your relationship is on that list. Listen as they discuss the tangible things they do to connect.

Your Partner Brings Out Your Best And Worst

Daniela and Shaun talk about relationships as being constantly in the pursuit of your partner's truth. They explore how your partner brings out both the best in you and the worst in you. Listen as they discuss the challenge with arguments and the problem when couples don’t have fight at all. 

Holding Space with Tantra and Containers

Daniela and Shaun talk about the benefits of containers and how to hold space for one another so they can safely express emotions and their sexuality. They also explore Tantra as a spiritual process for going down and in to the body for connecting to the divine. Listen as they also discuss the complexities and protections of the human brain that require strong intention and presence.