Life Without Climax

How might you feel inside a life without climax?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) along with Shaun (he/his/him) shares her life without climax and the trauma and pain of feeling like she didn’t belong. She talks about the impact on her sense of self, and they talk about the impacts it had on their relationship.

She Comes First and Last

What if you could disrupt the choreography of how you have sex?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore breaking the heteronormative choreography of “he comes first and sex is done” during their most recent sex practice. They also talk about integrating in their multiogasmic identities and how they got here.

Being Multiorgasmic and Sacred Self-Pleasure

Would you like to be a multiorgasmic couple?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore being multiorgasmic while delving into the differences between climax and orgasm. They discuss self-pleasure and what makes it sacred and necessary for epic sex.

P is for Polyfidelity

What word or words embody your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore the term polyfidelity to describe their ideal relationship structure. They discuss Daniela’s girlfriend and the literal definition of ménage à trois. 

Taking Responsibility for Your Relationship

Do you show up to do the emotional work to meet the needs of your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore what it takes to do the work individually and together as they co-create their dynamic relationship. They discuss the magnetism and weight of authentically sharing their non-dominant relationship style and structure with others.

Co-Creating A Dynamic Relationship

Does the container of your relationship meet your needs and heal your wounds?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) discuss the co-creation of their dynamic relationship structure. They explore definitions, expressions and situations that impact their sex, love, and relationship.

Slow Foreplay and Sharing Sexual Energy

Does your sexual energy need to be shared?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) share the slow, delicious foreplay of dressing and undressing one another and watching one another strut. They explore sexting etiquette, dick pics, and consensual interactions.

Attraction Outside of Your Relationship

Is it okay to experience attraction outside of your relationship?

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) talk about what happens when they experience desire and arousal when looking at other people outside of their relationship. They discuss how social conditioning and religion impact judgment and shame when it comes to being attracted to someone other than your partner.

Healing and Triggers

Do you know what triggers—and heals—your partner?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) share what they each need from birthday celebrations while exploring both the burden and privilege of knowing and understanding each other’s triggers.

Play With Desire and Arousal As Separate Experiences

Do you experience desire and arousal as the same thing?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) discuss the differences between desire—like wanting your partner—and arousal—when your genitals are engorged and how to unwire the myth that these two responses go together.

Your Relationship is Normal

How do you know your relationship is normal?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) talk about their experiences getting together with other couples. When very little is shared with any authenticity, they talk about getting stuck in comparison instead of considering what it is they truly desire inside their relationship.

Shadows of a Third

What elements overshadow your ability to be present to your relationship?

Daniela (prefers she/her/hers pronouns) and Shaun (prefers he/his/him pronouns) talk about recent blocks they’ve experienced to intimacy, connection, and sex. When family time, trauma, and work overshadow time and energy for their relationship, Daniela and Shaun go easy on themselves.

Who Are We? How We Identify and Sexual Expressions

How does how you identify affect your sex, love, and relationships?

In this premiere episode of The Epic Couple's Journey, Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (pronouns he/his/him) share various aspects of their identity to center how they approach their relationship as well as how they experience sex, love, safety, and belonging.

What Matters Most?

What matters most to you?

Daniela and Shaun discuss what matters most in life in light of recent deaths in their family. While meeting with their life insurance agent, issues of worthiness and value come up and impact their relationship and the life they’ve created.

8 Keys To Better Sex

What would it take for you to experience better sex with your partner?

Daniela and Shaun explore eight keys to better sex while sharing which keys have impacted their sex life the most. While talking about worthiness, mindset, and intentions, they discuss how far they’ve come throughout their relationship.

How Did You Two Meet?

How do you feel while you tell someone about how you and your partner met? 

Daniela and Shaun each share how they met as they explore how and why counselors and therapists use the question “How did you two meet?” as an indicator of the strength of the relationship.